Don't recall if I'd had this reaction heretofore but I see the Veerasamy quote at the top now and instantly think "obviously we're crystallizing that 'optimizing for status' is preferable to 'optimizing for orgasms'"--doing the former gets you more of what you want including if what you want is more of the latter.
> You track the exchange rate of your attractiveness capital like a CEO watching his share price tick up or down every second, distracting her from the mission of building the company for long-term profit.
Is there a typo here? If pronouns match, this is about one person with their attention rapidly deviating from their real priorities. If not, this seems to be more about one person's narcissism impacting their *partner*, which is interesting.
I'm on board with a lot of this. My quibble is that in my experience, people in long term relationships still really do care A LOT about others opinions of their partner, even though of course it's only part of the picture.
Don't recall if I'd had this reaction heretofore but I see the Veerasamy quote at the top now and instantly think "obviously we're crystallizing that 'optimizing for status' is preferable to 'optimizing for orgasms'"--doing the former gets you more of what you want including if what you want is more of the latter.
> You track the exchange rate of your attractiveness capital like a CEO watching his share price tick up or down every second, distracting her from the mission of building the company for long-term profit.
Is there a typo here? If pronouns match, this is about one person with their attention rapidly deviating from their real priorities. If not, this seems to be more about one person's narcissism impacting their *partner*, which is interesting.
I'm on board with a lot of this. My quibble is that in my experience, people in long term relationships still really do care A LOT about others opinions of their partner, even though of course it's only part of the picture.